Creating Connection and Calm: Simple Tips for Neurodiverse Families
Hi everyone! I’m Breeahn from Innately Kind, and today I’m excited to share some simple but effective tips that have worked wonders for our family. Whether you’re navigating neurodiversity or just looking for fresh parenting ideas, I hope these insights inspire you.
1. Hand-Holding for Attention
Instead of the traditional “tap” method for getting attention, which can sometimes be disruptive, especially for those with ADHD or other neurodiverse traits, we’ve found a gentler approach that works beautifully for us: hand-holding. 🖐️
Here’s how it works:
When You Need Attention: If my kids need my attention while I’m talking to someone, they gently come up and hold my hand. This physical connection is both reassuring and calming.
Instant Feedback: By holding my hand, they get a gentle squeeze in return, signaling that I’m aware of their presence and will be with them shortly. It’s a soothing way to acknowledge their needs without interrupting the conversation.
Learning Patience: This method also helps them practice waiting, which is a valuable life skill. Of course, if they need immediate help, I gauge their urgency by how they hold or tug on my hand.
2. The “Butterfly” Signal for Conversations
Ever find family discussions going in endless circles? We’ve found a charming solution: using the word "butterfly" to signal when a conversation needs to pause. 🦋
Here’s how it helps:
Clear Communication: When discussions become heated or unproductive, anyone can say “butterfly” to indicate that it’s time to pause and revisit the topic later. This helps prevent arguments from escalating and allows everyone to cool down.
In the Car: This method is especially useful during car rides when everyone is trapped in close quarters. It’s a gentle reminder to stop and reassess the conversation.
3. The Secret Hand Signal
In more social settings, like at school or parties, I use a special hand signal to check in with my kids. 🤟
The Signal:
We use a simple “okay” hand sign, which means, “I love you and I’m here for you.” It’s our way of maintaining a connection without making a scene.
Reciprocal Checking: If they respond with the same sign, I know they’re okay. If not, it’s a cue for me to check in a bit more closely.
4. Adapting Your Approach
Remember, parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all. If these methods don’t quite fit your family’s needs, don’t hesitate to adjust them or come up with your own strategies. The key is to find what works best for your unique situation.
Experiment and Adjust: Try different approaches and see what resonates with your family. Whether it’s a hand signal, a special phrase, or another method, the goal is to create a nurturing and understanding environment.
Flexibility and Patience: It’s all about trial and error. What’s important is finding ways to connect, calm, and communicate effectively with your loved ones.
I hope you find these tips helpful and that they bring a bit more ease and connection to your family life. Feel free to share your own strategies or ask questions in the comments below. Until next time, take care and happy parenting! 💖